Coming back to the topic, we all know that the line ‘With great power comes great responsibility’ was said by Uncle Ben to Peter Parker (Spiderman) just before he was killed. You might wonder what’s the connection.
The connection is that Uncle Ben wasn’t talking about Peter’s super powers. He didn’t even know that he was the spiderman. Power can be anything and we all humans have them. Some have the power of intelligence while some have the power of physical strength. From what we say or what we do or how our actions affect the life of others around us is power.
It’s no secret that babies learn by watching the things around them and especially from us, the parents. They learn by observing adults, even when we are not intentionally trying to teach them anything and these habits can stay forever.
I have noticed Vivaan observing everything I do and now he tries to copy it. Well whatever he can. The way I stand (Hand Folded), the way I handle my laptop while working (Laptop on my lap & legs on Bed), how I put on my floaters (One hand on wall for support & the other to tighten the strap) etc etc. Latest being how I walk around the house when talking on phone. He will pick up the phone & just blabber around pretending to talk to someone. I really have to think now before I speak or do anything as he might just pick up anything.
The good part is, he has already taken a few good habits. For instance, he will always sign to put on his seat belt if he sits in front with me in the car. That is because he has been noticing me do every time we sit in the car. Yes, at times he doesn’t want to put it on or wears it only for some time but I guess it’s a good start.
We are under constant observation by these tiny versions of ours. They are unknowingly constantly soaking up every minute detail of our way of life.
It’s a 4 step process
– Keenly watch and listen
– Process the information
– Attempt to copy the behaviour
– Practice
The achievement gives them a big sense of independence. Trust me their thrill is beyond words. Also, they love all the attention they get during the whole exercise!!
What I am trying to say here is very simple. What we say or do today is what they learn and how they behave. It is us who should watch our behavior and try becoming a good influence and example for the children.
We have the ‘power’, hence the ‘great responsibility’ to help make them a better person and prepare them for life. I guess this is what our dads wanted of us & it is what we want from our kids.
Very well written and a long overdue perspective.. would love to hear more from the other side 😉
Thank u.. 🙂
Very nice and inspiring article defining correlation between power and responsibilities with regard to parental behaviour Vs children. Definition of power is convincing.
Thank u uncle… 🙂
Very beautifully written.
Thank u.. 🙂
Very very true and we’ll said . this will be the wish of every parents
Thank u dad for everything.. 🙂
I agree – and as they age it becomes all the more important – as they will draw relevance to their surroundings from these first hand experiences.
Good articles which points out their learning attitude – well written.
Thank you.. 🙂
Fully agree with the views! Great article subir. Cheers !
Thank you.. How about an article from you as well? 🙂
Very nicely written brother…I could relate to every word of it. To me “Fatherhood” itself is a godly experience and if I try to explain it in words…I will go puzzled.
Thanks buddy.. Thats the idea. How to unpuzzle & express how we (Dads) feel. Let me know if you would want to write. 🙂
So refreshing to hear the parent’s perspective from a dad! After reading so much heart pour from moms- this is like a whiff of fresh air!! Kudos!!
Not only dads.. But moms could also empathise Subir.. Very articulate.. Good work 🙂
Great to read this …. although i dnt belong to a parent category but i do see kids around me observe me and my behaviour when i visit them…nicely captured subir !!
The most important and the most ignored aspect of parenting. Very well written ?
Would love to read more of you.
Thank you. Will surely try and write more… 🙂